What I want to speak with you about today is an issue that I spend MUCH of my time chatting with clients about.
Something that makes THE ultimate difference to their success or struggle in their health, happiness, energy or weight loss journey.
And that, my friends is STRESS.
Stress is NOT your friend!
If you care about your health, energy, weight and happiness, you MUST really evaluate how much time you spend in STRESS mode Vs CALM mode.
Yes, we’re all busy.
Yes, life is chaotic.
Yes, there are 3 thousand things to do, pay attention to, address and respond to.
Yes, sh*t goes wrong.
Yes, the kids can drive you nuts and test your patience.
Yes, work can feel like it’s closing in on you and never offering a break.
Yes, everyone around you can push your buttons and drive you nuts.
Yes, all that and MORE can be true….
The reality is though that, NO MATTER WHAT, we ALWAYS have a choice about how we deal with these things.
And ultimately, YOUR CHOICE affects YOU most seriously.
When you choose stress, you choose breakdown and destruction in, and of, your body.
You choose inflammation; increased fat storage; compromised immunity; impaired digestion; breakouts; high blood pressure; reduced sensitivity to pleasure; slowed metabolism; fatigue; mood swings; sugar cravings; reactivity; imbalanced hormones; depression; anxiety; reduced confidence; fear; poor self-esteem; bowel issues; ageing; cellular breakdown; disease.
Of course most of these things don’t occur instantaneously (although some of them do!), however, the more time we spend in stress, the more easily we choose stress, and the more these processes DO happen….
And this makes it increasingly more difficult to be happy, healthy, confident, energetic, positive AND keeping our weight where we most want it to be.
Trust me when I say I KNOW it’s not easy!
I am a recovered STRESSAHOLIC!
I “thrived” off stress in my younger days (or so I thought!)
I didn’t know how to be effective or productive without stress
I couldn’t possibly be calm or relaxed if there was something to be doing.
I was always ON and whenever something went “wrong” I would over react & really get myself in a state.
I truly thought that being intense and insistent was the only way to get things done
I really DID NOT KNOW how to get sh*t done whilst being calm
It wreaked havoc in my relationships….It wore away my confidence…..It depleted my energy levels….
And slowly but surely it BROKE ME DOWN…..
I ended up with adrenal fatigue….. Horrendously out of whack hormones….. My gums receded….. My hair fell out…..
I LITERALLY ended up a NERVOUS WRECK….
Only through my extreme break down did I begin to TRULY get that life is a MARATHON, not a SPRINT….
And that it is to be ENJOYED, not merely ENDURED…..
That STOPPING and SMELLING the roses IS the BEAUTY & MAGIC & BLESSING of life…..
Not the “getting somewhere”, “being someone” or “ticking off a to-do list”.
Back then, I DETESTED yoga.
TWO MINUTES of meditation was IMPOSSIBLE for me
LIFE insisted on teaching me HOW to do the things that would honour my health.
I had NO CHOICE but to slow down. To learn to properly care for myself
To rehabilitate my mind and body with patience and love and understanding.
And I see this in so many of my clients.
The breakdown or destruction of their health, energy, happiness & weight management, due to their inability to STOP stressing
Their resistance to BEING HERE NOW.
Their struggle to really ENJOY themselves and their life and all the simple things
We are constantly ON, constantly distracted and somehow we feel OBLIGATED to keep up with this crazy pace of life. To please everyone. To BE everything.
And it’s just NOT humanly possible.
IF we want to be happy and healthy and at our best, that is!
We must really learn to get real with ourselves in this department.
To learn the art of JOYFULLY DANCING with life.
If we want our time here to be regret-free, FULFILLING, heart-busting then we really do need to realise that how we are wired naturally makes us prone & vulnerable to slipping into health-deteriorating ways.
One of my most favourite and important learnings about the brain and mind comes from neuro-scientist Rick Hansen.
He taught me many years ago that the brain is like “teflon for the positive, and velcro for the negative”.
What this means is that, by default, without conscious awareness, it is in our NATURE to look for danger, to be on alert.…
We are wired to look for “what’s wrong”….. We are wired to REACT to anything that threatens our survival….
And without our own tempering and intervention, those piling to-do’s, bills, requests, demands, emails, social media pings, dings and buzzes, the constant ON-ness of life becomes ONE BIG LION that we need to be on constant ALERT for….
And this keeps our body in the STRESS response….Without our even realising it!
It becomes “the norm” to feel this way, so much so that often we are NOT aware of the constant and chronic damage going on in our bodies and minds, until things get bad enough to be expressed through an illness or injury- physical, mental or emotional.
And when we DO try to STOP and SLOW down we feel ANXIOUS and ON EDGE…..
I see it over and over and over.
And without a doubt, STRESS is the NUMBER ONE factor undermining a person’s health, happiness, weight loss and true THRIVING in life….
So…Food for thought.
Consider where you are at with this.
Do you relate?
I’d LOVE to hear from you 🙂 Comment below, or email me [email protected]
I’m always happy to answer any questions or queries 🙂
If your health and happiness and weight are important to you, learning how to minimise stress is absolutely ESSENTIAL!
Also, learning how to FEED ourselves in ways that REPLENISH important vitamins and minerals that are depleted by stress (think in particular B Vitamins, magnesium, zinc!) is helpful!
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That’s all for now gorgeous one!
Until next time, stay COOL and CALM despite the chaos and really soak up the knowing that you are doing so much GOOD for your health when you say NO to stress!
All my love,
Health & Happiness Coach
Dietitian~Counsellor~Psychology of Eating Coach