If you’re feeling stressed and scared right now, read this

Written by Bridget on . Posted in Food and Health Education, Words of Wisdom

I’m not sure how you have been feeling over the past 48-72hours but yesterday I realised that I was really scared.

I had been so focussed on staying calm, being positive and showing up as a source of grounded-ness for others I hadn’t even given myself time and space to process how I was feeling.

I realised yesterday I was so afraid. Afraid of how this virus could affect my loved ones, and vulnerable members of our community. Afraid of the pending economical implications. Afraid of having to face the reality of my wedding not going ahead. Afraid of the uncertainty of how this is going to unfold.

Yes I was apparently calm and contained, yet beneath the surface fear was infiltrating my being. Without acknowledging this, listening to it, expressing it and processing it, it began to dictate my thoughts and feelings.

I realised something was up when I reacted disproportionately to comments being made by other thought leaders about this being an exciting time. I was outraged. And I couldn’t let it go!

How could anyone possibly describe this time as EXCITING when people are losing loved ones, livelihoods are being threatened and our very way of life is shifting rapidly? I found it insensitive and unthinkable to consider this time right now as exciting.

However, I knew there was something here for me to learn as I was so TRIGGERED and my entire sense of being became consumed with this outrage and exasperation.

SO I reflected. I worked out. I meditated. I walked in nature.

And it HIT ME. I was scared.

DUH. More than natural and normal at this time!

It’s all well and good to think positive, stay calm and do the inner work, however it’s also important to always acknowledge how you feel and ALLOW those emotions to express what they need to express.

Once I stopped, took a moment to acknowledge how I felt and wrote it all down, I felt immediately lighter and clearer. I felt relief.

Ahhhhh. There is it. I am scared.

Ok. Of course. We’re all scared on some level.

And so today, I want to offer you some tools and resources you can access and use to help yourself through this uncertain time if you too are feeling stressed and scared. 

The FIRST thing I can offer you- as I unconsciously made this mistake myself- is to LIMIT your consumption of the news and updates and social scrolling.

Go to a source you trust for an update. Consciously consume that. Then consciously choose 1 or 2 spaces, places or people you resonate with and listen to or read their words of wisdom. Then, LEAVE.

Right now we need to LIMIT the input of information as I can tell you, there is a CRAZY amount of conflicting info swirling around and all it will do is make you more confused and stressed. 

TRUST YOURSELF.

At the very core of it, you are an animal. You have instincts. Trust your inner self right now for guidance on how to be feeling, and which actions to be taking.

The challenging thing is that you are an animal with awareness and a brain and a mind that selectively filters information, according to your beliefs and experiences. You have an ability to THINK and ANALYSE, and if left unattended this faculty can get very out of control.

More than ever, we need to be creating time and space to stop consuming all of the outside information and to get in touch with our inner sources of information- our own inner intelligence. You will know when you tune into your inner intelligence, exactly what to do and how to feel.

I had been guilty over the 24 hours prior to my little breakdown, of allowing outside information to determine how I felt.

It hadn’t influenced my behaviour necessarily, but it had determined how I was feeling.

When I took time to disconnect from all of the outer information and connect with my inner self, my inner being, my inner intelligence, my inner animal, I was calm.

I was peaceful.

I was grateful.

I was good, and all of the hysteria and panic was not there.

And it was so nice.

It IS so nice when I go there.

Lately my meditation has been the most DELIGHTFUL space to be and the space where I feel MOST myself.

When I do align myself back to my inner state of being and trusting my inner authority, then when I go out into the community, I have good interactions with people.

I am calm, I am friendly. I am open. I am kind.

And I receive that back, and it feels really good.

It feels really good to have these positive and empathetic interactions with people where there’s this unsaid kind of understanding that we’re in this together. And that feels really good.

So I would encourage you, if you are feeling stressed and scared, that is a sign to rebalance

To go within. To recalibrate where your information sources are coming from and to take some time to disconnect, create some stillness and calm within yourself.

You might go and have a bath with some essential oils, maybe some Epsom salts.

Maybe put on some good old music and rock it out and shake your body, and shake out the stress and the frustration and fear.

Maybe listen to a meditation -or practice your own form of meditation- whatever that might be.

Maybe journal out how you’re feeling.

It’s really important at this time that you honour how you’re feeling. That you acknowledge how you’re feeling. To create time and space to go within yourself so that you can support yourself, and be there for yourself to work through it.

Right now it’s more important than ever that we are trusting our inner authority, our inner intelligence.

Our higher selves, because everybody is been influenced by all sorts of information right now.

And not all of it is necessarily a helpful influence.

I’ve seen so many different theories going around at the moment about what is happening in our world and when I get lost in all of that I make myself crazy.

NO ONE KNOWS exactly what is going on, or how it’s all going to unfold. NO ONE.

All I know right now, is that when I connect inside, when I take time out, and breathe and create some space, I feel good.

It’s all good.

I will never say that right now is a positive or exciting time.

It is a time of change, of great change. As in, the size of it is significant.

We can do positive things with this time, we can respond positively. We can step up as leaders in our community. We can put kindness, compassion, love, at the forefront of our behaviours and state of being.

We can go deeper with this whole sense of being in this together, and of our shared humanity.

There are opportunities at the moment for really good things to come out of a very difficult space.

And if anyone is struggling, if you are scared or afraid or stressed or worried or anxious, I am here for you.

I get it. As I’ve shared I’ve had these waves myself and I’m just so grateful that I have spent the last two and a half decades fortifying my health and my well being- not just physically, also mentally and emotionally.

I have so many tools practices and resources that I can lean on in these times and also people in my world- beautiful friendships that I have grown over the past few decades; spaces I’ve invested in with my mentor and my mastermind group; places and spaces, I can go and lean on when I need to.

Some thought leaders that I do follow and really do appreciate their perspective and advice at these times include:

-Gabrielle Bernstein

-Marie Forleo

-Deepak Chopra

Each of these people have provided really grounded and wholesome advice at this time and I have felt calm and rebalanced by consciously consuming their content.

Please remember though, as I said, you have access to your very own wisdom, intelligence and guidance – always. And although other people can help us stay grounded and calm, ultimately we will do best to learn to go within and hear ourselves.

I just wanted to connect with you all, let you know that I’m human and that I’m here for you.

I’m going through all the feels as well, and I’m leaning HEAVILY on my tools and resources that I’ve built up over the past few decades.

Our fear, stress and worry is all legitimate, it’s all natural and normal given what’s going on.

And we will be of best service to ourselves, and others if we remember that when we’re feeling really stressed and strung out, that is the time to really DISCONNECT and go within.

It’s more important than ever to recognise when we’re out of balance, and that we need to go within ourselves to restore that balance. To get our information from our inner space, our inner intelligence, our inner selves.

I hope that is helpful, please feel free to reach out if you have any questions or just want to share how you’re feeling.

Lots of love.

PS- right now is a GREAT time to work on and fortify the FOUNDATIONS of your wellbeing.

I am hosting a FREE workshop on Monday 23rd March at 3pm QLD time on The FUNdamentals of Wellbeing.

Food is just ONE of these FUNdamentals. Come and let me share with you what I have learned over two & a half decades of living a healthy lifestyle and over one & a half decades of working with people of ALL backgrounds.

Empower yourself.

There is so much you CAN do right now to strengthen & support your most valuable resource- your health.

There is a limit of 50 spaces for this workshop so that I can personally answer any questions and interact with you as much as possible.

The link is here 

 

BridgetJane

Dietitian~Counsellor~Eating Psychology Coach

Newleafnutrition.com.au

Are YOU on your To-Do List?!

Written by Bridget on . Posted in Food and Health Education, Words of Wisdom

 

As women, or simply as humans who have lots to do, we often resort to lists and other scheduling or organising systems to ensure we not only remember it all, but get through it all.

Do you?

The interesting thing I realised the other day though is that VERY OFTEN, WE are not included on those lists…!

We have work tasks, home tasks, family related tasks, but where are the “looking after me” tasks?!

Do your lists often, or ever, include tasks that correspond to your own health, wellbeing or happiness?

I’ve started writing lists that do contain these!

Not only so that I feel more productive, but also so that my health & happiness don’t suffer when I’m super busy!

Without YOUR health & happiness, other things are not only less meaningful, they’re also harder.

When we are feeling low, uninspired, sad, neglected, tired etc, EVERYTHING else is significantly more difficult AND those that you care about get the not-as-awesome version of you

So, if you’re wanting more health, happiness, energy, productivity & a greater sense of fulfilment, I highly encourage you to start including YOU on your To-Do list!

And not at the bottom!

You should really come first, or a close second at the very least (because of follow on effects as explained above!)

On my list go things like:

  • Gym workout
  • Cardio
  • Yoga – 16 min shoulder/neck routine from Gaia
  • Meditation
  • Journaling
  • Massage
  • Read inspirational excerpts

Etc.

Not all of these everyday, but at least 1-3 things everyday.

And guaranteed, if those things slide or get skipped, predictably my productivity, happiness, health, energy and overall VIBE nose dive…!

So…

Tell me, are you on your To-Do list??

Have you had an Ah-ha reading this?

What are you going to add to your To-Do list for YOU?

I’d love to hear!

You can tag me in a post in Instagram or on Facebook (in both spaces I am @newleafnutrition), or email me on [email protected]

 

I LOVE to hear from you!

 

BridgetJane
Mind, Body, Soul Wellness

Dietitian~Counsellor~Eating Psychology Coach

Newleafnutrition.com.au

 

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Every minute of Stress is compromising your Health, Weight, Energy & Happiness

Written by Bridget on . Posted in Food and Health Education, Weight Loss, Words of Wisdom

What I want to speak with you about today is an issue that I spend MUCH of my time chatting with clients about.

Something that makes THE ultimate difference to their success or struggle in their health, happiness, energy or weight loss journey.

And that, my friends is STRESS.

Stress is not your friend

Stress is NOT your friend!

If you care about your health, energy, weight and happiness, you MUST really evaluate how much time you spend in STRESS mode Vs CALM mode.

Yes, we’re all busy.

Yes, life is chaotic.

Yes, there are 3 thousand things to do, pay attention to, address and respond to.

Yes, sh*t goes wrong.

Yes, the kids can drive you nuts and test your patience.

Yes, work can feel like it’s closing in on you and never offering a break.

Yes, everyone around you can push your buttons and drive you nuts.

Yes, all that and MORE can be true….

The reality is though that, NO MATTER WHAT, we ALWAYS have a choice about how we deal with these things.

And ultimately, YOUR CHOICE affects YOU most seriously.

When you choose stress, you choose breakdown and destruction in, and of, your body.

You choose inflammation; increased fat storage; compromised immunity; impaired digestion; breakouts; high blood pressure; reduced sensitivity to pleasure; slowed metabolism; fatigue; mood swings; sugar cravings; reactivity; imbalanced hormones; depression; anxiety; reduced confidence; fear; poor self-esteem; bowel issues; ageing; cellular breakdown; disease.

Of course most of these things don’t occur instantaneously (although some of them do!), however, the more time we spend in stress, the more easily we choose stress, and the more these processes DO happen….

And this makes it increasingly more difficult to be happy, healthy, confident, energetic, positive AND keeping our weight where we most want it to be.

Trust me when I say I KNOW it’s not easy!

I am a recovered STRESSAHOLIC!

I “thrived” off stress in my younger days (or so I thought!)

I didn’t know how to be effective or productive without stress

I couldn’t possibly be calm or relaxed if there was something to be doing.

I was always ON and whenever something went “wrong” I would over react & really get myself in a state.

I truly thought that being intense and insistent was the only way to get things done

I really DID NOT KNOW how to get sh*t done whilst being calm

It wreaked havoc in my relationships….It wore away my confidence…..It depleted my energy levels….

And slowly but surely it BROKE ME DOWN…..

I ended up with adrenal fatigue….. Horrendously out of whack hormones….. My gums receded….. My hair fell out…..

I LITERALLY ended up a NERVOUS WRECK….

Only through my extreme break down did I begin to TRULY get that life is a MARATHON, not a SPRINT….

And that it is to be ENJOYED, not merely ENDURED…..

That STOPPING and SMELLING the roses IS the BEAUTY & MAGIC & BLESSING of life…..

Not the “getting somewhere”, “being someone” or “ticking off a to-do list”.

Back then, I DETESTED yoga.

TWO MINUTES of meditation was IMPOSSIBLE for me

LIFE insisted on teaching me HOW to do the things that would honour my health.

I had NO CHOICE but to slow down. To learn to properly care for myself

To rehabilitate my mind and body with patience and love and understanding.

And I see this in so many of my clients.

The breakdown or destruction of their health, energy, happiness & weight management, due to their inability to STOP stressing

Their resistance to BEING HERE NOW.

Their struggle to really ENJOY themselves and their life and all the simple things

We are constantly ON, constantly distracted and somehow we feel OBLIGATED to keep up with this crazy pace of life. To please everyone. To BE everything.

And it’s just NOT humanly possible.

IF we want to be happy and healthy and at our best, that is!

We must really learn to get real with ourselves in this department.

To learn the art of JOYFULLY DANCING with life.

If we want our time here to be regret-free, FULFILLING, heart-busting then we really do need to realise that how we are wired naturally makes us prone & vulnerable to slipping into health-deteriorating ways.

One of my most favourite and important learnings about the brain and mind comes from neuro-scientist Rick Hansen.

He taught me many years ago that the brain is like “teflon for the positive, and velcro for the negative”.

What this means is that, by default, without conscious awareness, it is in our NATURE to look for danger, to be on alert.

We are wired to look for “what’s wrong”….. We are wired to REACT to anything that threatens our survival….

And without our own tempering and intervention, those piling to-do’s, bills, requests, demands, emails, social media pings, dings and buzzes, the constant ON-ness of life becomes ONE BIG LION that we need to be on constant ALERT for….

And this keeps our body in the STRESS response….Without our even realising it!

It becomes “the norm” to feel this way, so much so that often we are NOT aware of the constant and chronic damage going on in our bodies and minds, until things get bad enough to be expressed through an illness or injury- physical, mental or emotional.

And when we DO try to STOP and SLOW down we feel ANXIOUS and ON EDGE…..

I see it over and over and over.

And without a doubt, STRESS is the NUMBER ONE factor undermining a person’s health, happiness, weight loss and true THRIVING in life….

So…Food for thought.

Consider where you are at with this.

Do you relate?

I’d LOVE to hear from you 🙂  Comment below, or email me [email protected]

I’m always happy to answer any questions or queries 🙂

If your health and happiness and weight are important to you, learning how to minimise stress is absolutely ESSENTIAL!

Also, learning how to FEED ourselves in ways that REPLENISH important vitamins and minerals that are depleted by stress (think in particular B Vitamins, magnesium, zinc!) is helpful!

And over here I have the GOODS for you !

Loads of LENTIL LOVE ideas that will NOURISH, RESTORE and REVITALISE you!

ENJOY these 🙂

That’s all for now gorgeous one!

Until next time, stay COOL and CALM despite the chaos and really soak up the knowing that you are doing so much GOOD for your health when you say NO to stress!

All my love,

 

BridgetJane

Health & Happiness Coach

Energy Expert

Dietitian~Counsellor~Psychology of Eating Coach

Founder of New Leaf Nutrition and The Glow Project

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